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You may have an intellectual, physical, psychiatric or sensory disability. As a person with disability, you may be relying on your carer for daily support. This can make you more vulnerable to violence and abuse.
Maybe you are being hit or pushed by your daughter. Maybe you fell out of your wheelchair and need to go to the doctor but your husband refuses to take you. Maybe your carer doesn't give you your medicine when you need it or help you get to the toilet in time. Maybe you are being forced to do things you don't want to do.
If this is happening to you, you may be experiencing domestic and family violence.
You may be feeling scared, sad, ashamed and powerless. Maybe you're afraid no one will believe you. Maybe if you speak out, you're scared you'll be punished. Or maybe your partner is threatening to 'lock you away in an institution'.
You need to know that you are not alone. There are support services that can help you. The abuse and violence is not your fault. You do not deserve how you are being treated. And you are not to blame.
Domestic and family violence is wrong and is a crime. Even if the person hurting you is a family member, such as your partner, your child or another member of your family. It might even be a paid carer that is abusing you or making you feel fearful.
It can be heartbreaking when the person hurting or abusing you is someone who is meant to care for you. Remember that you have the right to be treated with respect and live a life free from violence, abuse and neglect.
Domestic violence is not just hitting and pushing someone. It can take many forms. It can happen in your house or at a care home. Here are some examples of what domestic and family violence could be like for a person with disability.
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If you have an intellectual disability, the Looking After Me Resource Kit will help you understand whether you are experiencing domestic and family violence.
Abuse and violence can make you feel confused, scared, angry, sad and sick. There are many people with disability that have experienced domestic and family violence and they know what you're going through. You can read about the experiences of these 8 women with disability.
(Video from Women With Disabilities Victoria)
You can talk to a trained counsellor on the National Disability Abuse and Neglect Hotline or on the Domestic Violence Line. They will listen to you and won't blame you or make you do anything you don't want to do. They will be able to get the right help for your disability.
They can also help you:
You may be scared you will be punished for speaking up or think that no one will believe you because of your disability. You may worry about how you will cope and look after yourself if you leave your carer.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to speak to someone you trust. It's important that you are listened to.
This can be a friend or a member of your family or a support care worker. Tell them what is happening to you and how it makes you feel. If you tell someone and they don’t believe you – don’t give up. Talk to someone else and keep telling people until someone helps you. You can also ask this person to help you contact a domestic violence service or the police.
You may need to see a doctor or a nurse if you have been hurt. They will be able to refer you to the right support services. Remember that your doctor, the police or any other professional can not discriminate against you because of your disability. It is against the law to do so.
You can read the advice these women with disability give other women who are experiencing domestic and family violence, including how they coped with the abuse, what they did to change their situation, and how support services and professionals helped them.
Here are some more domestic and family violence support services, and legal services for people with disability.
Making a call depends on your particular needs. Here are the different ways you can make a call through the National Relay Service. The 24-hour relay call numbers are below:
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16 May 2023