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It can be hard for a person to realise they’re in a domestic and family violence situation, especially when the person they love is causing the hurt and violence.
If you're experiencing domestic and family violence you may feel afraid, insecure, degraded, angry and unsure about what to do. Domestic and family violence causes fear and reduces your self-esteem.
You may even blame yourself and think it’s your fault. Sometimes women don’t get help because they feel too ashamed to talk about what is happening. Or they hope the violence will stop.
The abuse from domestic and family violence can make a person feel unsafe to be at home because someone is:
Many fear that if they leave, their abuser will try to find them and seriously injure them. They could also worry about losing custody of their children or having nowhere to live.
Research shows that the violence usually gets worse and more frequent as time goes on. There are many positive ways of dealing with problems that don’t involve violence, such as talking about what’s upsetting you or getting outside help. Here are the signs of a healthy relationship.
Domestic and family violence is a crime. Nobody deserves violence. The person who is abusing you is the one who is responsible for the abuse, not you.
If you or the person you want to support needs help in realising they’re in a domestic and family violence situation, you can make a start by thinking through the questions below to see what sounds familiar.
Does your former or current partner, boyfriend or girlfriend, flatmate, carer, or family member:
Does your former or current partner, boyfriend or girlfriend, flatmate, carer, or family member make you feel:
If you have answered ‘yes’ to any of these, then you could be experiencing abuse. If you don't feel safe, respected and cared for, then something isn't right.
(Source: The questions listed above were produced by the Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria and are republished with permission.)
07 Oct 2022